Guerrero: In defense of ghosting: It’s useful against toxic partners and politicians, too
I’ve never been one for drama. But if you’re going to be drama-free, make sure you’re drama-free, and here’s where I happen to agree with the “ghosting” of Donald Trump.
Let me explain.
I’ve been ghosted a lot.
I’m a private person, and I have a lot of private friends, but I’m not going to reveal their names. Plus, if you read the fine print on my blog, you know I rarely break my friends, nor will I reveal the relationships I’ve had with them in my blog. All people’s relationships are private, and the details of what I share are not that sensitive.
However, I do occasionally get someone to ghost me, and I always know who’s doing it. It can be someone who is not my partner, or someone who is not my best friend, but the person who gets the most mileage out of the situation is the person who ghosted me. That person is often someone I once thought was my partner, but in their mind I wasn’t the woman I thought I was. Perhaps they felt like they needed someone to take up the slack, or maybe I was just a poor choice. It could have been any number of reasons, but once I knew who the snitch was, I found it extremely hard to get rid of him. After all, I’d lost the trust. And all I really needed was to get rid of the ghost, not a real one.
Then there was my marriage breakup, which in my mind got my name on the list for ghosting. Of the people I’d met during my two years of marriage, only the two of us wanted to be married. The rest had either moved on to the next relationship or left me for someone else. So the list grew.
When the list was long enough to get my name on the list, there was only one person I knew who was on the list, and he was the person who ghosted me. He was just waiting for the right moment.
However, a month later, he ghosted me again.
He was an
